“Work-life balance was a mistake from the start. Because we don’t really want balance. We want satisfaction.”—Matthew Kelly, author

I’m going to let you in on a little secret here: You can’t!

Balance. Is It A Myth?

“Harmony” is an easier goal than balance.

Harmony means everything is co-existing in a spirit of cooperation. But whatever you want to call it —harmony, balance, or “fitting it all in”— there is a secret to doing more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.

Want to hear it?

I just need to warn you that although the equation sounds simple, it actually takes massive willpower to execute. It also requires that you get absolutely clear on what you want your life to look like, and what you do not want in your life.

Ready? Okay, here’s the secret:

  • First ask yourself what isn’t serving you. What doesn’t need to be in your life? What is dragging you down? Keeping you awake at night? When I find something is keeping me awake at night, I write it down on a notepad that I keep next to my bed and then I rip the sheet out of the pad and scrunch it up and throw it on the floor. In the morning, I pick it up and calmly place it in the bin without the need to look at what I had written.
  • Have you identified a few things? Now get rid of them. (Or fix them. Now.)
  • Next, ask yourself what you want in your life—or in this week or day? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be with? Focus your energy on these things. Anything that doesn’t fit into this larger scheme… let it go (or learn how to say “no”).

Ready to dive in and make a few changes? Give these tips a try and see how much more harmonious your life can be. No balance required. I know that when I became really serious about creating more harmony in my life and decided to let go of all those things that were not serving be, that initially it was hard. I was particularly worried that I would offend or some people who I had decided to let go off in my life due to their negative energy constantly draining my own energy. However, once I made the commitment to do it, it became increasingly easier to let go, and in the process I let more of the important things into my life.

Incidentally, the clients who choose to work with me on a six-month program, become very good at prioritizing what is important and what isn’t and always finish the program with a lot more joy in their lives because they have learned to make themselves a priority.


Are you curious about how to harmonize your health goals? How to fit wellness into your busy schedule? Let’s talk! Schedule a complimentary 30 minute health consultation with me today – or pass this offer on to someone you care about!